WHAT'S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SHAME AND GUILT?

"The majority of shame researchers and clinicians agree that the difference between shame and guilt is best understood as the differences between "I am bad" and "I did something bad."

GUILT = I did something bad.
SHAME = I am bad.

Shame is about who we are, and guilt is about our behaviors. We feel guilty when we hold up something we've done or failed to do against the kind of person we want to be. It's an uncomfortable feeling, but one that's helpful. When we apologize for something we've done, make amends to others, or change of behaviour that we don't feel good about, guilt is most often the motivator. Guilt is just as powerful as shame, but it's a fact is often positive while shame is often destructive. When we see people apologize, make amends, or replace negative behaviours with more positive ones, guilt is often the motivator, not shame. In fact, in my research, I found that shame corrodes the part of us that believes we can change and do better."

Today's Soul Wave...If you want to kick-start your shame resilience and story-claiming, start with these questions:

1) Who do you become when you're back into that shame corner?
2) How do you protect yourself?
3) Who do you call to work through the mean nasty's or the people-pleasing?
4) What's the most courageous thing you could do for yourself when you feel small and hurt?

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